Onwards and upwards – the 2024 edition!

Every year I keep promising myself to post on here with some sort of regularity. And every year I don’t…

The truth is blogs are a bit antiquated. Everything seems to be about social media these days – a form of communication that I think is very unsuitable to this sort of sessions. One’s exploration of all things fetish, BDSM and CP should be by definition private and discreet. Maybe one day I will get myself onto twitter or similar, but 2024 will not be that year.

I will however make another effort to revive this blog. I have received some wonderful implements for Christmas from some of my clients that definitely deserve being immortalised with a quick photo and a few other things and thoughts I would like to share.

So here is to the 2024:

I wish everyone a (somewhat belated) Happy New Year! I hope this year will bring you plenty of memorable experiences that make life worth living for.

And should having a spanked bottom be one of them – you know where to find me!

Happy New Year!

Happy New Year to you all!

I hope you had a lovely festive season!

Life has been all over the place for most of us in the last 3 years. I look forward to a bit more normality, or more correctly to building the new normal.

If you have any unfulfilled, lingering fantasies, perhaps this is the year to take the brave step forward and out of your comfort zone. Or maybe this year is about revisting your old-time favourites, enjoying the comfort of well-known sensations.

Whichever one you’re after, perhaps both at different times, I look forward to fascilitating your exploration.

If you’re new to this website, please have a read through the services I offer and other useful infomation before contacting me. As a new, to me, client, you will have to pay a deposit for your first session.

The cost of life is rising, making it harder and harder to afford the fun things in life we like to do. I have started offering sessions over 10 years ago and in all that time I have only lifted my rates once, back in 2017. I am way overdue needing to increase my rates but I will NOT be doing it at this point. I will rethink this in 6 months time, but for now my rates remain the same. While I know it does not help much in the grand scheme of things, I intend to remain as affordable, allowing you to experience the sessions whenever possible, for as long as I can.

Here’s a toast to new explorations, fun, fulfilment, excitement and satisfaction!!

New testimonials

I have added 3 new testimonials to the website. More coming soon!

You can read them all here.

 

“(…) Life can be very stressful at times: after a session with Miss Kami I feel mentally lighter, and much more relaxed. (…)”

 

“(…) I have been seeing Miss Kami for a number of years now and have never had a bad experience. Don’t be fooled by her smile once the session begins she is definitely in charge! (…)”

 

“(…) From the very first session Miss Kami made me feel comfortable safe and not judged. (…)”

 

Join me for a safe, consensual and deeply rewarding session,

always tailored to your limits and experience!

 

Electric play

Are you interested in electric play? GREAT!!

 

I have a violet wand (North Eeast ONLY) and a TENS unit (both locations) available for play.

 

Please make sure to mention your interest in electric play when booking the session as I won’t have the gadgets with me if you surprise me with the request on the day!!!

 

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Testimonials

I would like to thank everyone who had provided a testimonial in the last couple of week (and to all those who have done so in the past).

I appreciate you talking time to share your experience with others.

 

It is surprising how the time flies. Looking through the testimonials, and adding new ones, reminded me that I have sessioned with some of you for so many years.

Some things change, others just stay the same. There are new interests, new fantasies and new ideas. There are new premises. But at the end it is the same safe and non-judgemental environment for you to explore and enjoy your fetishes and various BDSM activities and CP.

 

Here is to another year of great adventures and fulfiled fantasies!!!

 

PS. If you would still like to write a short testomonial sharing your experience during our session(s) you are always welcome to do so. There is no deadline and your name will not be published if you don’t want. Any questions just drop me an email.

 

 

Anyone from Canada?

 

I am doing a little bit of research on how bdsm/fetish/kink as well as more mainstream adult industry works in different countries. Currently interested in Canada.

 

I am wondering if there is anyone, either a current client of mine, a prospective one or simply someone who is reading this out of curiosity that would be willing to help out?

 

I am ONLY looking for people who either grew up or live(d) in Canada and have any form of DIRECT experience (whether that’s personal or through film watching) with the bdsm/fetish/spanking scene over there and/or mainstream adult industry.

 

If you think you could contribute and have a few minutes to spare I’d love to hear from you.

Thanks!

 

misskamirobertson@gmail.com

 

IXU Violet Wand ready for play

While I have been busy in London the IXU Violet Wand has been thoroughly rechecked and IS NOW WAITING AND READY FOR PLAY.

As it is an old (completely rewired) device, it cannot be turned on for long amount of time without shortening its lifetime. Therefore session consisting ONLY of electric play with violet wand will NOT be possible. Play time using this wand is 10-15min followed by 30min break when we can indulge in other type of play.

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Here you can check my previous post about violet wands and their basic use and safety. Violet wands 101

 

SAFETY INORMATION:

Please note I will not, under any circumstances, be using this, or any other, violet wand to brand, burn or cause permanent markings. Please do NOT ask.

 

Just to remind everyone – I will NOT be bringing it to London. I will however be looking to buy (in the next few months) a second violet wand that I will be able to permamently leave in London.

 

 

 

Violet wands 101

 

As promised here is a brief violet wands 101 article explaining how they work without going into too much technical details.

 

Violet wands

Speaking in technical terms a violet wand is a modified Telsa coil-type electrical transformer. In plain words it is an electric apparatus that uses high voltage, low current (low amperage) and high-frequency electricity to provide physical stimulation that can be applied to skin. The electricity is applied in the form of stream of static electrical sparks. It is the low current that makes violet wands a safe choice for electric play in fetish or BDSM setting.

The antique violet wands from early 20th century that are nowadays professionally rewired for fetish play are more correctly referred to as violet rays, however, majority of people still calls them violet wands. I will continue using the term violet wands throughout this post to refer to both.

 

The violet wand apparatus consists of:

  1. a control unit – a box that that has a control dial allowing to increase and decrease output and often a voltage selector allowing wand’s use in America as well as Europe.
  2. a wand – a handheld plastic-encased transformer that supplies the electricity
  3. an electrode – an attachment inserted into the wand that delivers electric spark to the skin

 

The control dial located on the control unit allows for adjustment of output that modulates the sensation from gentle and sensual fizzle or tingle to a painful jolt. Some violet wands allow for a greater range of sensations than others. It is this greatly varying level of sensations and intensity that makes violet wands popular as it caters for a wide variety of tastes – ranging from a very first, gentle and sensual experience to a serious and intense challenge.

Cable joins the control unit with the handheld, about a foot long plastic-encased wand that houses the modified transformer.  On the other end of the wand an electrode of one’s choosing is inserted.

Electrodes come in various shapes. They are what conducts the electricity from the transformer to provide the stimulation to the skin. Each type/shape of electrode allows for different feeling and different type of sensation. Most of the electrodes are hollow glass tubes. It is the properties and shape of the glass tube that modifies and refines the sensation. Generally, the greater the contact surface of the electrode with the skin the milder the sensation.

When connected the electricity passes through gas filled electrode it makes the electrode light up and glow. Most commonly the glass electrodes use inert argon gas and light up purple/violet giving the violet wand its name. Some manufacturers, however, also use different inert gas and make electrodes that light up in different colours, for example orange. It is an aesthetic difference and does not affect the functionality.

The sensation provided by the violet wand can be further modified using different techniques: direct, indirect and reverse violet wand techniques are the three basic techniques that can be used. Direct technique involving direct application of violet wand electrode to the skin is the one used most commonly by majority of players.

 

 

Advice for beginners

Best way to start is a low setting and an electrode with a flat surface like a mushroom to distribute the sensation. If you are nervous this is the best way to reassure yourself that violet wands are not there to give you a dangerous shock but can be so mild and sensuous you can just about feel them.

The violet wand makes a loud buzzing noise when it is connected. It is perfectly normal and nothing to be worried about.

 

Safety note:

Please note that at no point will I be using the violet wand for scarring, branding or with intent to cause any permanent markings. I will also not use it for anything it is not meant to be used or with random attachments you might want to bring with you.

 

All the candle wax

Today I had the pleasure to spend more than an hour dropping hot wax all over one person’s thoroughly restraint body.

All. The. Wax… EVERYWHERE!!

(Face and head were about the only parts spared)

It has been a while since I have done a session like that. I nearly forgot how much fun that is!

 

PS. As much as I’m personally against men shaving their body (nice trim here and there does wonders instead) if you’re considering extensive candle waxplay having shaved will save you *hours* of picking the wax out. Just saying!

 

 

“I think I could have taken more”

 

From time to time I hear those words at the end of a session.

I *could* have taken more. I could…

 

The answer is always simple. Yes, you most likely could have. We, humans, can take just about anything if given no choice.

But, would you have enjoyed it?

 

A good session is not about taking every single stroke that one *can* take. Taking every single stroke possible is one in a life time experience that those who tried, never want to repeat it, or worse, never want to play again.

A good session is about an enjoyable experience. Yes, it should push you a little bit, but it shouldn’t shove you right outside of your comfort zone. Yes, it should feel challenging, but not to the point you don’t want to think about it the next day. Yes, intense session is about you wanting to be broken, but only to the point it is possible to put you back together afterwards. Yes, you want your heart beating faster in anticipation, but you don’t want to freak yourself out into a panic attack.

 

Going right to the edge of what one can take is about the best plan I can think of to make sure you don’t want to play again. As a professional mistress, whose somewhat of a life mission is to provide people with safe ways to enjoy their fetish fantasies, this is against my belief.

It is a *good* thing to think afterwards that you could have taken more. That means you are buzzing with the experience, endorphins are flowing and the play was stimulating in just the right way.

 

Obviously, you don’t want a session so far away from feeling pushed or challenged (in one way or another) that it feels like a waste of time. I don’t want that either. I have no reason to hold back for the sake of holding back. My interest is to provide everyone with an unforgettable experience and safe journey of exploration of their fetish interests. I want you to explore your limits, but not to break them.

 

There is, however, sometimes a very good reason why I believe holding back is a good idea.

(Obviously if you don’t want any marks, that’s quite obvious I might not go as far as you might like.)

But apart of such obvious reasons there are others that might call for slightly less heavy play. Fetish play is not just a physical sensation of being in pain, there are also psychological and emotional factors to consider (and to enjoy). If you are new to play it is in your best interests to take it slow enough that you actually enjoy what happens during a session.

 

The more experience you have the safer (and more enjoyable) it is for you to push yourself further. I greatly enjoy intense sessions, when people explore their limits, properly, for the first time ever and when dark fantasies come true. Nothing makes me feel like I’ve done it right than hearing someone say that it was the most intense and remarkable experience ever.

I have often been told that I have taken someone further than they have ever been before but that they have still *enjoyed* every minute of it. Because, it is always about the enjoyment – whatever that ‘enjoyment’ is to a person.

 

I like intense play (whether that is on a psychological level of physical), but please, do not ask me break your limits as I will refuse to engage in this unsafe practice.