Are you new to the CP (corporal punishment) or BDSM scene? Have you always had these kinds of fantasies but somehow never had a chance to act on them? You are not alone!


Here you can read a testimonial left by one of my Newcomers.


It’s not unusual for people to spend years fantasising about being dominated or spanked without doing anything about ‘the itch’. If you are reading this you have already taken the first step to live out your CP or BDSM fantasies. Well done, I hope that soon you will go all the way and experience your very first play session.


I realise that as someone without any experience you probably have dozens of questions and worries running through your mind right now. Have a look at the Q&A section below and hopefully I can ease some of your worries right now.



Q: What if I don’t know if I will actually like it/how much I can take?


A: This is exactly what the first session is about – to discover if you like it when your fetish fantasies become reality. You don’t have to know “how much you can take” – we will discover it together. First session is likely to differ significantly from a normal standard session. We will chat about different toys and implements, how things work and then we will proceed to try different things out – it can all happen as slow or as fast as you want to help you stop feeling awkward and uneasy. I have the ability and understanding to help you fulfil and develop your own fantasies. You will be surprised how good it feels when they come true.


Q: I’m feeling odd talking about/thinking about THESE things. Is that normal?


A: I too remember how unnatural it felt at first, many years ago, to vocalise those thoughts. It’s not exactly an everyday conversation. But it helps to have it with someone, like me, who is used to conversing about those subjects. No worries, I have probably heard it all. I will quickly put you at ease allowing you to enjoy your first REAL experience.


Q: What if I am not sure what would I like to try out?


A: We can keep the first session down to an introductory session, where we discuss various options, and slowly progress to try them out while having a fairly relaxed conversation. There is no need to jump right into a complex roleplay or fantasy. It is important that you feel comfortable first so that you can enjoy the experience.

We also don’t have to script the session before we meet. We can always decide on the day what to try and how far to go with your very first experience. And you can always change your mind and decide to try something else.


Q: Are you experienced with newcomers?


A: I meet people with little or no experience with the CP or BDSM scene on regular basis and have successfully introduced many of them to the pleasure and satisfaction of fulfilled CP and BDSM fantasies. Everyone is different and looks for different experiences. Together we can find a way to unleash your fantasies. The venues I use, both in London and Newcastle, are designed for the purpose, immaculately clean and discreet and can perfectly cater for a very wide range of fantasies.


Q: Is the CP session going to leave marks?


A: It’s hard to answer that question because everyone’s skin bruises differently. In most cases I can easily avoid leaving long-lasting bruises (more than 1 week), but you should be prepared that some marking might be visible for up to 48hours if your skin is not used to receiving punishment. The rule is simple: the more your bottom is used to the punishment, the less you will bruise. If bruises and marks are an absolute no-no there other types of play apart from CP you can indulge in that don’t leave any marks.


If you absolutely can’t afford to have any bruising on your bottom please say so at the beginning and I will make sure that you dont have any. Also, you should be aware that certain skin conditions and blood thinning medications can cause increased bruising.


Q: What about skin cuts?


A: A good and memorable session does not mean you need to be beaten so hard that your skin is cut. With good accuracy and proper implements it is possible to avoid cuts while (role)playing, even while playing on the so called hard level. I will NOT cut your skin. In fact, this is where I draw a line – do not offer very brutal judicial punishment scenes that lead to broken skin.


Q: Can you do JUST hand spanking?


A: Yes, I can do just hand spanking, but you need to be aware that if you are interested in strong sensation hand spanking will most likely not satisfy your needs. Hand spanking is usually used for a warm up and people who enjoy more punishment benefit from a use of implements later in the session.

Although I am a firm hand spanker you will probably find other Mistress that can deliver it much harder and for longer.


Q: I have this intense fantasy of you being in control. You look young, are you able to be completely in control?


A: Age has really not much to do with someone’s ability to arrange a high-quality CP or BDSM session and be in control. I’m very experienced and knowledgeable about all the types of sessions that I offer. While I care about your fantasies and want to make sure they come true, once we start to (role)play I will be demanding and in total control of you and your body. It comes to me naturally.


Q: What sessions do you offer?


A: I offer CP, corrective therapy and discipline sessions, BDSM play, relaxation therapy, sensual/erotic play and various roleplay scenarios. More information on Session With Me page.



If you think you are ready to acknowledge your needs and take the next step I await your email.